People often ask, ‘Is there magick to get my lover back?’ Magick can assist with reconciliation after a breakup, but you need to be certain that’s what you really want. And you should know that sometimes, in the course of working through the required magick, you will discover that you are, in fact, ready to move on.
With this in mind, know that magick can work to recover your love, but be open to the changes that occur within you. If magick guides you to a place where you see a new future – without your ex – accept the possibility of change.
In a previous article I talked about Targeting Your Magick, and this article takes the same concepts to show how you can target magick at the complexities of a relationship. You do this by looking at where you are now, how you got to be there, and the change you genuinely want to see.
When it comes to reconciliation magick there are many ways to approach this, from the simple to the complex. The simplest way would be the Recover Lost Love ritual from The Greater Words of Power. It works, but it’s more likely to work when there is no bitterness, resentment, misunderstanding or other factors that are affecting the situation. If those factors are present, you may need to target your magick more creatively. Here is a pattern you can follow:
Firstly, gain insight and understanding
You need to obtain a clear perception of the situation you are in. The best way to do this is to spend some time contemplating yourself and the relationship. You need to understand how things ended up the way they are, as well as exploring the depth of your true feelings. For this you would probably use The 72 Sigils of Power, as there are many Names within that give you access to greater insight into yourself. You might even want to use some angelic magick to gain additional clarity and guidance. The angel Hachashiah, for example, helps you to obtain clear thought in the midst of a complex emotional situation, while the angel Eshaliah can give you great insight into matters of the heart.
Secondly, resolve underlying problems
The Angels of Love is often thought of as a book for finding a soulmate, but it contains so much more than that. The ritual for Healing a Relationship can be used even after a breakup, to resolve problems that prevent reconciliation. There are many rituals in The 72 Angels of Magick and The 72 Sigils of Power that can be used to bring calm, peace, understanding and improved communication. A focus on good communication can be as important as anything.
To resolve problems, you may need to direct the magick at yourself. If you burdened the relationship with negativity, jealousy, doubt or indifference, you can use magick to work on your personality. This will make you more appealing.
It’s a cliché for people seeking reconciliation to say, ‘I’ve changed’, and it is usually an empty statement, not backed up by any real change. By working on aspects of yourself you can make it true. The change can become so real and tangible that you will never have to utter the phrase, ‘I’ve changed’, because the change will be obvious to those who encounter you.
There are rituals in The Greater Words of Power that help to ease bitterness and jealousy, as well as increasing confidence. In Words of Power there is a ritual to Become the Most Loveable Version of Yourself. That book also contains rituals to help you work on issues of guilt and shame, if you find that was a problem in your relationship.
Finally, work with emotions directly
With the groundwork done, you can now work with emotions, and attempt to create an atmosphere that is conducive to reconciliation. With The Greater Words of Power you may want to Give Comfort to Another, which could make your ex feel more at ease, and less vulnerable to potential pain. You could also Make People Warmer Toward You and Encourage Change.
When it comes to angelic magick, you could work with Lelahel to inspire love, or it could be that your partner is feeling negatively about you, and you therefore need to use The Power to Overcome Negativity with Eladiah. More directly, Yezelel can be used to Reunite Lovers.
There really is no substitute for spending some time with the books, and reading through all the powers, to see what may help you.
Don’t underestimate The 72 Sigils of Power in this stage. Using the Results Magick from this book you have a substantial amount of emotional magick that can be used to create trust, understanding and love. This magick is quick and easy, and can give a little extra direction to your other workings.
If you now use the Recover Lost Love ritual, when everything else has been put in place, it is more likely to be effective.
The above description is extensive and time-consuming. It may be that the Recover Lost Love ritual is all you need. But you can go for a more complex approach when you feel there are many factors at play, preventing the reconciliation.
It’s also worth mentioning an alternative approach that can work in some circumstances. Magickal Seduction was not designed for reconciliation, but I know it has been used successfully in that way. One particularly creative approach was to use Ritual 3, to create a general aura of attraction, so that the person in question felt that he could genuinely start to move on. He felt attractive and appreciated, and this meant he was less needy, less desperate and less focused on his ex-lover. By becoming popular and well-liked by those around him, he immediately became a more attractive proposition. He followed this up with Ritual 1, to help passion arise in his former lover. When the relationship fired up again, he used Ritual 2 to turn that attraction and passion back into love.
There are no guarantees in magick, and in some cases, even the most carefully crafted and passionately executed magick does not bring about reconciliation. If somebody has truly moved on, nothing you do will change that. But if that occurs, know that this extensive magickal work is not wasted, as it is certain to refine you, give you more awareness of your emotions and prepare you for a new relationship. As mentioned at the outset, it may also be that when you approach the problem with such a thorough method, the magick leads you to see that you are intact, whole and ready for a new life without your ex. Whatever the result, this magick can be worthwhile.
With that said, you must be very aware that a concentrated magickal effort like this will often yield the exact result you seek. Don’t resurrect a relationship simply because you can, or because it’s easier than moving on. Be certain you genuinely want a reconciliation, and that it will benefit you both in the long term, because you just might get one.
– Damon Brand